Welcome to the fourth post in the series, breaking down Scott Dinsmore’s epic TED Talk “How to Find and Do Work You Love”. Among 300 people who do inspiring work that they love, Scott found 3 things in common, that you can take action on. Become a self-expert, do your impossible, and surround yourself with people who inspire possibility. In previous posts, we’ve covered how to be a self expert. This time, it’s Doing Your Impossible. Dig in.
The human being is capable of anything.
We all have greatness within us.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Wilson
Yet nowadays, we’re so quick to sell ourselves short. We’re quick to give up on our wildest dreams. To say things can’t be done. Is it any wonder we live in a society that would prefer successful people to keep their heads below the parapet?
To become the strongest versions of ourselves, and liberate others, we need to start believing that we CAN do anything. And that greatness is within us all.
How do we do this? How do we believe we can do anything?
By achieving our “Impossible”.
Define your “Impossible”.
Note the quotation marks. “Impossible”. In my eyes, there’s a subtle difference between “Impossible” and Impossible.
I use these quotation marks because I truly believe that there is no such thing as impossible.
“Ok, fair enough. What exactly do you mean by “impossible” then?”
Your “Impossible” is something that right now, you can’t do. Or something that you’d never see yourself doing. Or something that’s so far out of your comfort zone, that you’d never make it back to the sofa.
It could be a physical challenge. Like running a marathon or a 5k, bench pressing 100kg, doing hill sprints, doing a Tough Mudder or getting 6-pack abs. Something physical that you’ve always said, “I couldn’t/wouldn’t (ever) do that.”
It could be a mental challenge. Like abseiling down a tall building. Or swimming in deep, dark water, or crawling through a cave. Or going somewhere where no-one speaks English. Or asking someone on a date.
Whatever it is, it has to be something you definitely don’t associate with yourself right now. Something that just “isn’t you”.
For example, maybe you’re not a social person right now, and you HATE icebreakers and being forced to socialise with strangers with a passion. Then maybe going to a networking event is your “Impossible”.
Your “Impossible” is extremely personal, and means something different to all of us. We ALL have our “impossibles”. Even if you have the most kick-ass, insane growth mind-set, you’re still gonna have things that’ll push you out of your comfort zone.
Now, do a simple exercise. Before we move on, define, and write down YOUR “impossible”. By knowing what it is, and putting it to paper, you’re immediately one step closer to living it.
The Incredible Prize of Achieving YOUR “Impossible”.
Right now, there’s probably things that you think you can’t do. Things that aren’t possible. Things that might not work out, so you’d rather avoid. For most of us, we live our lives avoiding these things, and finding work-arounds.
Now, imagine achieving your “impossible”. Scaling that epic mountain of resistance, conquering your fears, and taking a sledgehammer to your wall of limiting beliefs.
Imagine the feeling of sheer POWER. The feeling of being INCREDIBLE. If you can achieve your “impossible”, then what can you not achieve?
All those things that we previously avoided? All those things that we thought we couldn’t do? Those mountains become molehills, once you’ve been to the top, and conquered your “impossible”.
Anything and everything become possible. The world of opportunities fans out like a river delta before us, each tributary offering a delicious nugget of possibility.
Ands the harder your “impossible”, the sweeter the victory.
Ideas to Help You Accomplish Your “impossible”.
Let’s group “Impossibles” into 2 distinct categories.
Physical “impossibles”, and mental “impossibles”.
For physical challenges, break your goal down into small, bite-size, achievable chunks. If you don’t know what these steps are, then google it. Start small.
For example, if you flat out think “I could never run a marathon”, then choose a marathon. Break down your “Impossible” into small steps.
Start with running for a minute, or 500m. Then next week, 2 minutes. In 2 months, maybe it’s 5 miles. Then half a year later, your “impossible” of a marathon is now a reality.
Maybe your “Impossible” is being able to run quickly – you were always the “slow-one” on your football teams. Well, break down your “impossible”.
Create yourself a program of plyometric training – explosive box squats, barbell work, hill sprints, intervals…. After 4 months of that, how can you NOT be quicker? And after 2 years? Well, who knows.
For mental “impossibles”, like giving public speeches, or talking to people in another language, or abseiling down tall buildings, put yourself in situations where you can’t not succeed. Find those situations where it’s sink or swim, and put yourself right in the thick of it.
Maybe it’s public speaking. Enter a public speaking contest. Join a public speaking society like toastmasters. Work in a job that makes you speak to large groups of people. Make it so that you can’t NOT succeed.
If there’s one thing you takeaway from this post, it’s this.
We’re all truly great. We just need to prove it to ourselves more often.
Don’t sell yourself short, and don’t let others tell you that you can’t do something. Aim high, dream big, have crazy goals, and take small steps to accomplishing them.
When your old “impossible” becomes your new reality, you CAN do anything.
“I wouldn’t say anything is impossible. I think that everything is possible as long as you put your mind to it and put the work and time into it. – Michael Phelps”
Call To Action
Define Your “Impossible”. Something that really means something to you.
Is there a sink or swim situation you can put yourself in for a mental challenge?
Or what are the steps you can take for a physical “Impossible?”
As always, Dream Big Start Small!
Love you all,